Three thoughts that keep us from our good

There are three thoughts that keep us from our good.

Deserving. Are we deserving of our desires?

Giving up (hopelessness) What’s the use? If it was meant to happen, it would have.

Fear. Fear of success and failure. Beliefs about fear and success can lead us to fear them.

When pursuing our goals, we often run into obstacles and setbacks. When the obstacles come in rapid succession, we can begin to think it was never “meant “to be.  These are thoughts and beliefs, but are they accurate?

Self-worth is something that builds from when we are very small. It’s very difficult to escape childhood without some self-esteem issues. The thing is, just as we built them day by day, we can change them, day by day. If they don’t serve us, we can change them. I know, “how can I change that, it’s just how I am?”. Are you really saying, “You don’t deserve your desires because that’s just who you are.”? Do you realize how illogical that sounds? Let’s think about this. Are you evil incarnate? No? Ok. What else about you that makes you undeserving? If you have an answer to that question, then it’s time to find a therapist. If you don’t, I have an experiment for you to try. Think of the most deserving kind of person you can think of. Maybe your answer is spiritual in nature, a child of the divine or the universe or maybe it’s more pragmatic, a Good person. Most people are good people.  You’re a good person. Good people deserve their desires. Notice, I said, good person. I didn’t say saint. In the billions of people on the planet, there might be one or two saints. The thing is, you don’t have to be a saint to be deserving of your desires. So, here’s the experiment. For the next thirty days, play with the idea that YOU. ARE. DESERVING. YOU. ARE. GOOD. ENOUGH. I’d love to hear your results.

Giving up is literally the easiest thing to do. All we have to do is… nothing. We let things get away from us. We allow other things to become more important. We forget the plan and what is important to us. Our belief is we should not try because it has never happened before. We believe we’ll only be disappointed again. Once again, these are beliefs, but these beliefs do not serve us. Our beliefs are powerful, but they do not need to have power over us because if the wrong beliefs have power over us, we will never succeed. You have the power to decide what your beliefs will be. Wouldn’t it make more sense to believe in your desires and that you can achieve them?  If you get distracted, figure out why. Then adjust for the new circumstance. Just because you haven’t yet does not mean you can’t. It means you haven’t yet.

Fear is a big one. Fear paralyzes us. It makes us believe in falsehoods such as successful people are jerks. Are you a jerk now? If you become successful, will you become a jerk? Do you want to? No one forces someone to become a jerk.  That’s a choice. Work it into your plan to not be a jerk, if that is a concern. People with money are not good people. There are lots of good people with money. Just because you haven’t met any doesn’t mean they don’t exist. It means you haven’t met any. Be good people. My friends won’t like me if I become successful.  What kind of friends disown you if you become successful? Make time for them. You’ll both be happy. Will I have to sacrifice things I care about to be successful? Yes, but at every opportunity to give something up, you will be given ample opportunity to deliberate whether you want to. Does it matter to you? Friends and family matter. Don’t give them up if they actually support you. Learn discernment. What if I fail? Failure isn’t personal. It’s an opportunity to readjust your plan.